Femme Friday / January 19

Sarah here...

 Currently Reading

Currently Reading

I've been reading Oprah's book "The Wisdom of Sundays." It is a spirit-building book that I think everyone should read - no matter what religion or background. The whole book is full of very short stories or excerpts (no longer than a few pages) about life, balance, finding peace, and mindfulness. If I had it my way, every kid would read this book to open up their worldview and hopefully experience some soul awakening early in life.

In less than 3 weeks, I will be on Chelsie's Birthday Cruise to the Bahamas!! If you saw her recent post, you know she ordered CupShe.com. When I saw her suits, I had to give it a try. I have been on the search for a true high waisted swimsuit (and had already ordered multiple from Aerie), so I figured I'd try it out with Chels.

I received 2 Aerie and 2 CupShe suits on the same day. And WOW - both of my CupShe suits were true to size, adorable, and higher quality than I expected. Oh, and I received them in a week... from China. A true miracle. Here are my two suits...

 My favorite out of all 4. The fabric is not super stretchy, which is flattering for my body. Time for self-tanner!!

My favorite out of all 4. The fabric is not super stretchy, which is flattering for my body. Time for self-tanner!!

 Love this one. I had to get one with an ingredient on it - it just felt right. I also feel like I million bucks in it.

Love this one. I had to get one with an ingredient on it - it just felt right. I also feel like I million bucks in it.

If you watched our story earlier this week, I showed you the making of THE BEST MEAL EVER (okay tied with the burger bowl). I'm thinking about putting the specifics on the blog... or maybe saving this one for an E-book. My husband, a man of few words, said it may be the best dish I've ever made. WEEK MADE. The secret is quite literally in the sauce.

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Monthly Intentions Check-In

I shared my January Intentions on my last Femme Friday post. I have been doing decent on keeping these intentions moving forward. The one I am struggling with is (shocker)... working out! Any Cinci babes want a workout partner? I am close to West Chester / Liberty area. 

I have been doing well at staying intent on eating natural foods 80% of time and saving the indulgent stuff for 20% of the week. Have I been perfect? Heck no! But, I had a cool moment happen... earlier this week I realized I ate 3 pretty horrible meals over just 2 days (there have been SO many donuts in my office lately...) My swimsuits had just arrived only hours after having CHINESE. Yes, Chinese. Hello MSGs and a carb coma.

Swimsuit on and belly-ache in full action, I thought, "I am going to do better tomorrow." And while this might seem so unworthy of mentioning, it was a moment I finally felt healed of the mental turmoil I experienced about a year ago. March of last year, my husband and I were discussing seeking therapy for my disordered eating. And this week I had the glorious moment of completely messing up, still feeling worthy, and continuing on... empowered.

I have people who completely love me, but don't understand how deeply my struggle with weight, food restriction, and binging has affected my mental wellbeing. And that is okay. With any mental or emotional issues, there will always be people, even with the best intentions, who will minimize your battle. Please don't let this stop you from getting help. If you are struggling, please know these things:

1. Pursuing a healthy lifestyle means moving forward - not perfection. Don't take it to heart when someone you love questions your wellness journey each time you go to eat with family/friends or have a glass of time. More thoughts on this issue here.

2. You do not have to be underweight to have an eating disorder. Plus, getting skinny won't fix your brain or your broken relationship with food and your own self-worth.

3. Cycles of disordered eating will rev up into a full-blown ED if you don't get help. Don't dismiss the signs that something is wrong with your mind just because you have a few good days here and there.

4. Getting help isn't embarrassing - it is empowering. You aren't selfish for admitting what is going on in your head and asking others to help keep you accountable to growth.

xo Sarah

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